Have you ever been in a conversation where the girl is just like; Yes. No. ok/kk/k. lol/haha. Kul. even when you think you are killing it? Ain’t it annoying? Maybe it’s her fault. Maybe she’s boring or just not into you (In that case, my brother, just go and bark up another tree). Or maybe it is your fault. You are annoying even with your lyrical justice – for reasons you may not know and which she may not tell you. Let me help you…
HER MOOD IS A GAME CHANGER SO BE COURTEOUS AND ASK HER HOW SHE IS DOING
Ever heard of the saying look before you leap? Asking your bae how she is doing should be one of the first things you do before you proceed with your conversation. Don’t just rely on the answer she gives. Please check her weather forecast before you take off with her. If she is okay, you are safe. Jump to the next point. If she is in a bad mood you are advised to stay in your zone. Trust me, a lady in a bad mood is like a bomb waiting to explode. Unless you have the lyrics to defuse her, please continue the convo later. But if you insist on snipping her cables, tell her that you understand she is moody or isn’t in the mood to talk to you but that hurts and bothers you. You want to be there for her and you’re going to try and be understanding. You want to use times like these to show how much you care. That she should test you. After that, say a silent payer and hope to stay alive.
SHE DIDN’T TELL YOU SHE WAS IDLE SO BE WISE AND ASK HER IF SHE IS BUSY OR NOT
Maybe it’s a bad time. Ask her what she is doing. If she is busy, let her focus on what she is doing and hit her up at a better time. If she’s busy but ready to chat, don’t expect her to say much and don’t be offended by her short responses. Even if it is because she is chatting with another person, cut her some slack and try to win her attention gradually. Stay nice. Tell her things you find interesting about her. No negative tones out of jealousy. Rather, letting her know you are jealous because you desire her more and wish you could steal more of her attention, might let her give you more of it. Else, cut your convo short and come back later. Don’t let the lady find you annoying PLEASE!!!
SHE DIDN’T START THE CONVERSATION SO DON’T EXPECT HER TO SAY MORE
Maybe she was not ready to chat but she replied just to be nice. Start with a light topic taking ideas from the previous steps; how she has been and what she may be doing. Try to let the conversation be about her. If she recently visited a place you both know, don’t just talk about your last visit to the place, rather, try to find out from her what is different about there. However, do not stay on the light topics. Gradually take the conversation to next levels depending on where you intend for it to go. Get personal but be careful and back off topics she finds uncomfortable. Don’t be profane. She likes to feel like a lady!
WHAT IS THE REASON FOR STARTING THE CONVERSATION? BE REAL AND MOVE STARIGHT TO THE POINT
Don’t we all hate it when people beat about the bush? Break your convo into short messages. She gets that you can talk without getting tired but you’ve got to make your points clear so that she can follow. Don’t be that guy that talks and talks and talks and talks and talks and talks and talks and talks and talks. I was getting annoying huh? “Nonfa”. It’s not a conversation killer to state the main reason why you started the conversation in the first place. It gives her the chance to make meaningful contributions to whatever you want to talk about. I’m not saying you should start the conversation with “I wanna fork you”. Sorry “I wanna go out with you”. Unless you are sure she is that type of girl. That’s just by the way. You should start with something light then build your way to your destination as indicated earlier. Whatever the case, let her know your mind.
KNOW WHEN TO END YOUR CONVERSATION AND BE THOUGHTFUL ENOUGH TO THANK HER FOR HER TIME
Just like the comedian who leaves the stage when the crowd is laughing uncontrollably, there is no need to have that conversation till all the excitement dies down. Leave some for another day so that next time, she comes looking for you or at least is excited to see you again. Be a gentleman about it though. Don’t just end the conversation with “talk to you later” or any such phrases. Let her know you wish you could talk with her (not to her) forever. It’s nice to be appreciated. Appreciate the time she has spent with you. Be grateful it was you but not one of the million guys she has on her phone. Including me! Jk.